We are always given choices. It is always up to us to determine which choice we will make. Some choices are easy, and obvious, and others are more difficult. Sometimes we let others make the choice for us, which is also a choice. No matter what choice we make, we will be led down a life path. This article is to remind us that we all have a choice in how we choose to go down that path.
Several years ago, I became single again after 10 years of marriage. I had five beautiful children under the age of 10 and was new to the workforce after being a stay-at-home mother for the previous 10 years. I was entitled to the financial help from my children’s father, and it was important for my kids to see that he met his obligation to both them, and also the obligation, which was required by the State. He made that right very difficult. He left his job as an engineer, and began working as a consultant. It was almost impossible to find out how much he billed his clients or how much money he made per year.
When I had to go to my lawyer’s office or to the courthouse for a hearing for child support, I would feel clammy and dark. Even though I was fully entitled to the money, it was a depressing activity and lowered my energy. I hated to argue and justify why I needed help supporting our children. I thought it should be obvious. Even when the Judge ordered him to pay, it was a fight to get the money. The constant battle made me feel like I was going into a dark thunderstorm. This storm left me fighting cancer, not just fighting for money. It wasn’t worth it! When the mind spends time on something we cannot control, it’s wasted energy, and wasted thought. I once read, “why would we allow someone we don’t care about to rent space and time in our brain?” NO THANK YOU!
Without the sun, my positive energy could not flourish and attract more positive things in my life. I had to leave the storm.
I began to focus on the sunshine and positive thoughts, I was able to put my entire mind on my life, and focused on what I could do. I chose to focus on what I was in control of creating, and how I could create the best life to support my children without help.
To support my children, I had become a certified personal trainer. I lost 60 pounds in 3 months, after my 4th baby, so that helped me be very good at my job. I understood how my clients felt, what motivated them, and how to help them feel accomplished. In the gym, I taught people how to lift weights, but more important, I taught them how to love themselves. By changing their body and achieving their goals, they found a new self-respect, a new confidence and excitement they hadn’t felt before. They were so appreciative of my lessons and grateful to me. That helped me feel valuable and important, and I loved making a difference in peoples lives! Every time I went to work, it was like I was under the bright sunshine, and the suns rays showered golden light that fed me energy and made me stronger and more resilient.
This way of thinking opens the mind, expands dreams and visions. We are more creative. This raises our vibration, and puts the Law of Attraction into effect. It allows all we need, whether it’s a person, or an opportunity, to flow toward us with blazing speed. Next, take immediate action on the ideas received and the ball starts rolling. That quickly escalates into solid opportunities and sound accomplishments.
Soon, I knew it was time to grow. To help me set the boundaries of what was most important to me, I made a list of 3 things:
- The Mother my children deserve to have
- The woman I intend to be
- The career I want to have
I thought and prayed all night long on those 3 items. I began writing:
The Mother my children deserve to have
I knew my children needed a strong mother that allowed them to be children. They needed to be in a home without the fear of losing their Mother to the cancer I was fighting to survive. They needed a mother they were proud of. They needed to laugh and play. They needed to be able to participate in the activities they were drawn to, to find their talents and skills.
The woman I intend to be
I wanted to be a woman that was respected, and a woman that I respected. I wanted to be a woman who was strong and courageous. I didn’t want to be a victim any longer.
The career I want to have
I knew I was fascinated by the power of the mind and what we could accomplish with it. I wanted to train athletes, and teach them how to use their minds to create their game.
That was just the beginning. The next day, I got busy on those items, signing up for classes, changing bad habits, and choosing to live in the bright sunshine everyday! That was a great start!
By focusing this way, we learn that we don’t have to live under another’s thunderstorm. It is a choice to engage, or not. Staying under the sun, and out of the storm others try to drag you into takes some strong mental work, but it’s worth it. The rewards are plentiful and we get to be the recipient of the self-respect we have earned. When we move beyond the anger, the fear, and all the negative emotions that keep us stuck, we can take what is ours and carry the constant feelings of love and joy in our hearts. We live a life we love living!
Today, I have a successful career, and continue to create a life I enjoy. I support you in your journey creating yours!
Blessings on your SUNNY DAY!