In today’s busy, hustle bound world we live in, too many people find themselves asking, “Is this all there is?”  All too often, people find themselves contemplating their mediocre life, as if their existence has no purpose or glory. They have forgotten their distinctive qualities and desires that make them authentic. They are frustrated for not feeling joy.  They feel unappreciated.  They begin to cower like a hunchback, fading into the crowd that seems to pass them by, feeling completely unnoticed. Daily, they go through the same boring mundane motions.  When a person becomes lost in their misery, they become bogged down by several negative emotions.  They observe people traveling, buying new things and receiving accolades, looking as if they can’t possibly have any problems them self.  These feelings linked with the observations, can eventually cause them to start blaming others for their lack luster life.  They often allow another’s thoughts and beliefs to become their own, which stifle their dream.  Soon, they have no idea what their own deep desires are.

When we allow ourselves to become truly authentic, it allows us to find what we feel passionate about and chase it with a fury!  It allows us to feel that stir of excitement like a butterfly flutter, deep within the belly.  Soon the posture snaps upright with confidence and hope upon hearing someone express our value to the company.  We’re able to feel elation when someone truly appreciates the effort we make, in the workplace or in the work done maintaining the home.  We feel the skin tingle when someone pays a compliment. We are flooded with new ideas to share with our company or start our own.  When we know and feel this passion, we don’t let someone else come and squash our dream.  Not our friends, our parents or even our spouse.

5 ways to restore authenticity

  1. Be true to yourself all the time.
    Most often, these people are caught living a life they think they should live instead of the life they choose to live.  They are blaming others for their lack of joy, when in fact; they allowed this existence to come forth by their own behavior long ago.  They have lost touch with their uniqueness.  They may have become more like a chameleon to please others, than to be true to their self.  When a person is not allowed to be true to their soul, their happiness will be diminished, and eventually they become stagnate.
  2. Don’t wear a mask to please others
    Too many people have certain behaviors around one person, and then behave a different way in front of someone else.  It’s as if they have a mask that keeps changing to appease others. It is not authentic, and it confuses the people observing the different roles being played by this individual.  When changing roles in the personal realm, the individual loses their own identity.  The observer is able to see the change in personality.  There are few situation this works, such as professional versus personal.  For example, an individual is very professional at work in their clothing attire, and attitude.  However, when they are out on their personal time, a coworker may be surprised to see the conservative one, scantily clad, drinking alcohol, and having loud fun.
  3. What are you currently doing that is not you?
    We are plagued by the “shoulds” in the world.  I “should” do this; I “shouldn’t” do that.  Replace the word “should” in a sentence with the word “choose.”Choosing is our desire.  Should is someone else’s desire for us.  We must be honest and secure with ourselves to know what makes us happy.  When we are able to completely love and value ourselves, we make choices that please us.  Only then can we be an example for those around us; a light that shines to the world and says, “I love me!”  We must examine our behaviors, be true to our self, and not become lost in what others want us to be or do.
  4. Know what you are passionate about
    When we don’t know what our passion is, ask, what do I love to do? What makes me happy? What gives me goose bumps when I imagine doing this?  What do I enjoy doing in my spare time?  When we know the answer, we then can make a plan.  We can’t possibly have it mapped out from A to Z, but when we have an idea of where we’re going, our brain drops ideas of where to start.  Begin with an idea or two, implement them and allow the Law of Attraction to work for you.  The Law of Attraction helps us attract all the situations and people we need to manifest our desire.
  5. How do I support my family while working on a dream that hasn’t happened yet?
    Unfortunately quite often, those dreams don’t have a monetary value attached to them in the beginning.  This can make it very tough on a family. We become so excited, feeling that flutter in the stomach and tingling skin that we don’t want to be bogged down by “a job.”  Our dream feels as if we are on a freight train, ready to turn the corner and hit a mountain of gold and jewels, and now we have to stop and do a mundane thing like “a job?”  “The job” will slow us down. That way of thinking is limiting.  We must remember that we still must do what we have to do to live, until our dream is making us the money we need to live. Be grateful for “the job” because it is allowing us to have a roof over our heads, air conditioner to cool, and food on the table! When we thank “the job” for the necessities it provides, our freight train doesn’t slow down, it keeps blazing and soon enough, we can quit ”the job” and enjoy the income from our passion!

When we begin with these simple, honest steps, we peel back the layers of misconception we’ve been hiding under.  We begin to feel free and alive.  The light of our soul begins to flicker and our heart is open with unconditional love.  We know we have a purpose!